05 12 / 2013
If I could start over
and begin again
and change the faces I made
and the phrases I laid
at your feet to be dealt with,
if I could go back
into the past and
rearrange, reorganize, or fix —
still knowing we could end up
like this —
I’d be softer
and kinder and
probably try buying more time.
But time is wasted
on the youth with
too much else in mind,
and this love
and this heartbreak
are all that I have left
to call mine.
04 12 / 2013
i cant believe bollywood goes through the intense struggle of dubbing hindi OVER a white girl’s lines just so the actress can be white and they can jack off to whiteness because brown wimmin with dark skin and dark lips are too gross to look at.
04 12 / 2013
Ambition is demanded of us because we know mediocrity is not an option. When society tells women that if we are just averagely good-looking, or averagely smart, or reasonably high-achieving, we will never be loved and safe, perfectionism is an adaptive strategy. We learn that if we want love and security, we have to be perfect, and if it doesn’t work out, well, that means we just weren’t good enough. And we know it probably won’t work out well. Girls aren’t fools. They know what is being done to them. They know what means for their futures in terms of money and power.
Girls get it. An under-reported, crucial facet of the study is the extent and cynicism of girls’ concerns about economic equality and unpaid work. A full 65% of girls aged 11-21 are worried about the cost of childcare, and while 58% say they “would like to become a leader in their chosen profession, 46% of them worry that having children will negatively affect their career.
Girls know perfectly well that structural sexism means they can’t have everything they’re being told they must have. They are striving to have it all everyway, striving to have everything and be everything like good girls are supposed to, and it hasn’t broken them yet, for good or ill. That’s is one reason young women still do so well in school and at college despite our good grades not translating to real-world success. It’s one reason we’re so good at getting those entry-level service jobs: we are not burdened by the excess of ego, the desire to be treated like a human being first, that prevents many young men from engaging proactively with an economy that just wants self-effacing drones trained to smile till it hurts.
The press just loves to act concerned about half-naked young ladies, preferably with illustrations to facilitate the concern. Somehow nothing changes. And maybe that’s the point. Maybe part of the function of the constant stream of news about young girls hurting and hating themselves isn’t to raise awareness. Maybe part of it is designed to be reassuring.
It must be comforting, if you’re invested in the status quo, to hear that young women are punished and made miserable when they misbehave.
I’ve said this before, but I’ll repeat it: for all those knuckle-clutching articles about how girls everywhere are about to pirouette into twerking, puking, self-hating whorishness, we do not actually care about young women - not, that is, about female people who happen to be young. Instead, we care about Young Women (TM), fantasy Young Women as a semiotic skip for all our cultural anxieties. We value girls as commodities without paying them the respect that both their youth and their personhood deserves. Being fifteen is fucked up enough already without having the expectations, moral neuroses and guilty lusts of an entire culture projected onto this perfect empty shell you’re somehow supposed to be. Hollow yourself out and starve yourself down until you can swallow the shame of the world.
We care about young women as symbols, not as people."
04 12 / 2013
The Perfect Bride
- 1: Daddy, when I grow up, and if I get married, I don't want a diamond.
- 2: But every girl wants a diamond. In fact, they're a girl's best friend.
- 1: Not me. They're not my best friend.
- 2: Then what do you want sweetie?
- 1: I like opals. Black ones.
- 2: The boy's are gonna pick you up fast. You're a cheap date.
- 1: Oh, and I don't want it to be on a ring. I like necklaces better.
- 2: But how are people supposed to know that you belong to your husband if they don't see a ring? It'll be confusing.
- 1: If they think I belong to my husband, daddy, aren't they already confused?
03 12 / 2013
It makes me really sick to my stomach the way some people view the homeless who beg on the street or people on welfare.
The stereotype that these people are lazy and don’t want to work is a huge MISCONCEPTION, that has been perpetuated by rich, greedy conservatives who can’t stand the thought that their “hard earned” money is going to people who actually need it.
Do you realize how hard it is to get a stable job in this city, when you have a mental illness? Do you realize how easy it is for a teen to be homeless when their parents kick them out for being trans or gay? There are so many institutions in this city that don’t and won’t offer help to people with situations like that.
Do you honestly think that people want to be out there, begging in the street for a buck a day, when they can be working?
And don’t give me shit about how they can apply for homeless employment programs. There aren’t any in this city. Believe me. As a child of a person who has been off and on the welfare system because of health issues, I know the extent to which the government is going to help you in finding an appropriate job.
03 12 / 2013
Hey everyone! Just letting you know that this is my personal blog, in which I write whatever comes to my mind. My friend, Anika, and I run a blog called Brown Girls in the Rain, which talks about our issues pertaining to race and culture. I write a lot more for our blog, so when you guys have time, try checking it out! I think a few of my followers might enjoy it.